Mindful Spotlight

June - Forgiveness

Forgiveness provides peace of mind and has a calming effect. Experts agree that letting go of deeply held negative feelings has a positive impact on brain and body chemistry. Conciously releasing angry feelings toward someone or something empowers you to recognize the pain you suffered without letting that pain define you, enabling you to move on.

Forgiveness is truly a key component in the complexity of social relationships, the avoidance of unnecessary conflict, and the ability to grow and learn in your personal life. Why is it that some people find it easier to forgive and forget than others? What happens to the dynamics of a family if one of the family members chooses not to forgive and forget? The impacts on the body and spirit are astounding. Give it a try.....

  • “Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.”

    ~ Martin Luther King Jr.

  • “We don't forgive people because they deserve it. We forgive them because they need it--because we need it.”

    ~ Bree Despain

  • “Before we can forgive one another, we have to understand one another.”

    ~ Emma Goldman

  • “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”

    ~ Nelson Mandela

  • “True forgiveness is when you can say, "Thank you for that experience.”

    ~ Oprah Winfrey

  • “To err is human, to forgive, divine.”

    ~ Alexander Pope

  • “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

    ~ Mahatma Gandhi




Books

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Forgiveness: Theory, Research, and Practice by by Michael E. McCullough Phd, Kenneth I. Pargament PhD, Carl E. Thoresen Phd

The first section provides a historical and conceptual overview, examining definitional problems and giving special attention to religious and cultural influences on how forgiveness is understood and experienced. The biological, developmental, social, and personality foundations of forgiveness are then explored. The final section covers applications in clinical research and practice, including guidelines for studying and applying forgiveness-based strategies in psychotherapy, counseling, and interventions to promote health. This volume will be of interest to a broad interdisciplinary audience of researchers, educators, students, and practicing professionals.

Five Steps to Forgiveness: The Art and Science of Forgiving by Everett Worthington

The good news is that no matter what your injury, clinical psychologist and researcher Dr. Everett Worthington has found that there is a way to unburden yourself through forgiveness and move ahead with life. His new program, Five Steps to Forgiveness, offers step-by-step advice on how to achieve this breakthrough.

The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu

Tutu's role as the Chair of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission taught him much about forgiveness. If you asked anyone what they thought was going to happen to South Africa after apartheid, almost universally it was predicted that the country would be devastated by a comprehensive bloodbath. Yet, instead of revenge and retribution, this new nation chose to tread the difficult path of confession, forgiveness, and reconciliation.

Four Ways to Forgiveness: Stories by Ursula K. Le Guin

In this stunning collection of four intimately interconnected novellas, Ursula K. Le Guin returns to the great themes that have made her one of America's most honored and respected authors.

For Kids:

The Berenstain Bears and the Forgiving Tree (Berenstain Bears/Living Lights) by Jan Berenstain and Mike Berenstain

In The Berenstain Bears and the Forgiving Tree, Cousin Fred accidentally damages Brother’s brand-new bike. When Brother Bear gets angry, can Sister Bear help him see that forgiving his friend is the right thing to do?

The Forgiving Lion by Efrat Haddi

Helps to teach children an important social skill that can make home life happier and school more successful. It also provides parents, teachers, and counselors with an entertaining way to teach children why they should forgive others.

What Do You Stand For? For Teens: A Guide to Building Character by Barbara A. Lewis

Even elementary school children can build positive character traits like caring, citizenship, cooperation, courage, fairness, honesty, respect, and responsibility. The true stories, inspiring quotations, thought-provoking dilemmas, and activities in this book help kids grow into capable, moral teens and adults. Previously titled Being Your Best, this award-winning book has a fresh new cover and updated resources.

Videos/Research


Nelson Mandela and the Science of Forgiveness

Jack Kornfield: The Ancient Heart of Forgiveness

Jack Kornfield: 12 Principles of Forgiveness

Kindness and Forgiveness

Fred Luskin, PhD: What Is Forgiveness?

Fred Luskin, PhD: Forgiveness Is Trainable

Jack Kornfield: The Ancient Heart of Forgiveness